Jam to Lamb

Two years ago tomorrow, I got a life-changing email from a lovely woman named Felice Austin. It started like this…

Dear Lani,

I got your name and email from Martha. She said that you are a fellow birth loving mamma. My name is Felice Austin and I am writing a spiritual birth book titled The Gift of Giving Life…

Needless to say, it only took a few nanoseconds for me to know I most definitely wanted to be a part of this project. And two years later I can say with every bit of my heart and soul that I know God brought Felice Austin and me (and all of my TGOGL sisters) together.

The day after I came into contact with Felice, she wrote a blogpost I will never forget. To this day it is still one of my all-time favorite blogposts. I hope you will enjoy this re-post from her archive as much as I did two years ago. -Lani

This is a friend’s daughter, Danika, leaning in to touch the orphan lambs. I made this image in Montana in 2005 on my second trip to Pachy’s ranch. I have this image up in my private workspace and every time I look at it, it makes me want to cuddle with the lambs.To be clear, I’m a city girl, and I was never an animal lover. I dislike shed hair of any kind, and my keen sense of smell has ruined many a trip to the state fair or zoo. But something powerful drew me to this all-female sheep ranch during lambing season.

Pachy Burns has an outfit of about 800 sheep in western Montana. When her daughters were maybe 8 or 9, Pachy left a corporate job and moved to Montana to become a sheep rancher. She had no experience, and she was a single mother. No men around to speak of. She and her daughters figured out how to do everything and somehow did it. But when the girls grew up and on, she needed help during the lambing season. (Lambing season is the month when all the pregnant lambs give birth. It happens 5 months after the introduction of several genetically well endowed bucks.) So she invited several of her female friends from around the country to come see what she was doing and also help her with the work during that crazy month long birth bonanza. That was 15 or more years ago. Since then, word spread and now women from all over come and participate and some even pay her (not much) for the privilege. She has dubbed it “Jam to Lamb.”

I first heard about it through a friend that is a documentary photographer. We had been wanting to collaborate on something and this spoke to both of us, so we went. If you asked me then why I was going, I would have told you that I wanted to interview and learn the stories of the individual women and what drew each of them, but in truth, I wanted to see if their reason was the same as mine: I was terrified and obsessed with birth.

I had no children yet and wasn’t close to ready–and the primary reason was that I was afraid of giving birth. I had never witnessed a birth, just heard horror stories and had the media version of birth firmly entrenched in my imagination.

But something about lambing and this sheep ranch drew me. Perhaps because it was all women. I will analyze myself later…

It ended up being a pivotal moment in my journey to motherhood. I could write tomes about the sheep and this experience, but the most important thing I learned was that birth is a normal process that happens hundreds of times every day. Very few of the sheep were screaming out in pain. Maybe 4 in 800 had a problem. I remember looking deep into the eyes of a laboring sheep and what I saw there is what I now recognize as “the zone.” She was going deep within and working hard.

Sheep give birth standing up (on all fours I guess you could say). The lambs come out front hoofs first, swan diving from the womb. It is beautiful to watch. When her baby hits the ground the mother licks its eyes and face clean.

I remember worrying about the smell of 800 sheep, but miraculously, there was no smell. It was strange. Pachy explained that it could be mother nature’s way of protecting the lambs from cayotes and other animals during lambing season. This is amazing to me.

One of the days I was there, I helped pull a lamb from a sheep who was having a difficult time (someone else was massaging the parinium). I was up to my elbows in amniotic fluid when it was finally born, healthy. I remember standing there thinking, I should wash my hands. But before I reached the bathroom they were dry, and felt oddly clean. I smelled them. They smelled good. They smelled cleaner than anything on that whole ranch. I washed them anyway, but like Mary, I kept all these things in my heart.

I took another year before I had the courage to try it, but I learned so much from these sheep. I hope someday to take my daughter to play with the lambs.

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