Last week I celebrated the 10th anniversary of my birth into motherhood. It kind of boggles my mind that I’ve been a mother for a decade. It also boggles my mind that this baby…
…just had her 10th birthday. Double digits?!
For the past couple of years, I’ve been pondering what I want to do to help her prepare as she nears the milestone of menarche. Over the years I’ve taught her little by little (through casual conversations) about her body, her reproductive organs, how they work, what will happen when she starts to bleed, feminine hygiene products (including all about menstrual cups), how babies are made, etc. Being the daughter of a birth junkie has its perks! She knows more about women’s bodies than most girls her age, I’d wager, and certainly more than I ever knew before I reached menarche.
I wrote a bit about my own journey into the world of menstruation and my hopes for my daughters in my post “Red and Powerful” HERE. I’ve known for a long time that I wanted my daughters’ experiences to be more positive than mine was. So a month or two ago I started creating a book for my daughter.
It’s not so much a book about periods or vaginas. It’s a book that I hope will prepare her to be an empowered and courageous young woman with profound respect for her body and the beautiful things her body can do.
It includes seven rainbow-color-coded sections (coordinated with the seven chakras) with values I hope my daughters will develop. The values may sound familiar to some of you…
- Individual Worth
- Good Works
- Choice & Accountability
- Faith & Knowledge
- Divine Nature (white)
With each section, I have given my daughter a…
- Value and color
- Description/definition of what the value means to me
- Positive “I” statement affirmations (printed from this site)
- Woman from the scriptures who exemplified the value (most of the text taken from Heather’s blog)
(For those who are familiar with the LDS Young Women Values, in most cases the colors, symbols, scriptures, and descriptions I’ve chosen are different from those used in the Young Women Personal Progress program. I won’t go into all the reasons I did this, but I think this book will help my daughter to become familiar with the values and prime her for the Young Women’s program.)
Interspersed I have also included some poems I wrote about Eve and menstruation. At the end of the book I included a revised version of my “Red and Powerful” essay, diagrams of the menstrual cycle, and a print-out explaining the various menstrual product options so she can start thinking about which type she wants to start with. In addition to the binder/book, I am giving her a c.d. with all of the songs/mantras for each value on it. And I made her a charm bracelet containing charms of each symbol and the coordinating colors.
My plan is to sit down with my daughter and go through each section of the book together a bit at a time (over the next several months) so we can discuss the topics and so she can ask any questions she may have. I think it will be a special bonding time for us, and by the time we get to the end of the book, my hope is that she will feel confident and prepared to face the coming adolescent milestones with grace and joy. Maybe she’ll still be awkward, embarrassed, and moody. Maybe that’s inevitable? But a mom can hope for the best, right?
If you’d like to do something similar for your daughter(s), I’m happy to share what I put together. Let me know in a comment below, and I’ll email you my file(s) and sources so you can make it your own.
8 thoughts on “Preparing Our Daughters”
Beautiful. I would be interested in seeing your files. Thank you for sharing.
Oh, absolutely, please share! My oldest daughter is turning 10 in November, and I have not prepared her enough. I love what you’ve said about it being something to look forward to and not a bad thing. I want her to know it is amazing and wonderful, though a bit tough at times. Thank you so much for sharing all of your hard work (writing, finding, formatting!).
I’d love to know what you put in the binder, sounds like a great idea! I just had the talk with my 10 yr old daughter. This looks awesome!
would love it if you shared! I have 4 daughters!
This is a wonderful idea. I would love to do something similar for my daughters. Thank you for sharing.
I would love to know the specifics too! Thank you!
I would LOVE to share in your beautiful book. I have a niece who is 11 who can use this book, and my daughter will too someday. (she’s only three now, but she’ll be 11 too, before I know it…..)
I would love to make a book like this for my girls! I have been looking for something to do with them during our study time together. Thank you!
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