You are helping to host a “normal” baby shower, but you want to make it a little bit more spiritual and meaningful for the mom.  A party with gifts and food is fun, but it is easy to add a few simple things to make this celebration more about the Mom and her journey to mothering this baby and therefore make it a bit more special.

Have you attended a Mother’s Blessing?

You have heard about and maybe even attended a Mother’s Blessing aka Blessingway?  Do you want to help create something like that for your friend?  At the same time you don’t want the fellow guests to think it is too “weird”.  So maybe skip the belly henna painting, but try these 3 simple tips instead.1.

1 – Writing and Sharing Wishes

Pass around blank note cards and have everyone write a wish or a piece of supportive advice they have for the mom.

Some examples:

A Fast and Easy Birth

A Happy Baby

An Easy Adjustment to the Baby

Take a Nap when the Baby Takes a Nap – you deserve the rest!

Then when Mom is opening their gift, the guest whose gift is being open, stands up and reads their wish to the Mom.

The thing I really love about this, is it keeps the guests focused on the mom as she is opening gifts and really makes the night about her and not just socializing with each other.

2 – Add Beads to take it up a notch

An easy thing to take the first tip up a notch, is have each guest bring a bead to add to a necklace/bracelet for the mom.  Have some extras on hand to give to those guest who forget to bring one.  Or if you already sent the invites out, go get a bunch of fun beads that the guests can choose from during the party.

When the guest shares their wish, they can go over to the mom and give her the bead and a hug.  Have a bowl near the mom, as an easy place to store the beads as the gifts are opened.

After all the presents are opened, you can easily put the necklace/bracelet together.

The mom will love having a keepsake from the well wishes that were given to her.  I know many moms who choose to wear their bracelet/necklace during their birthing time.


3 – We are all connected

Take some colorful cording and wrap it around the Mom’s wrist.  Then pass the cord around the group and have the guests wrap it around their  wrist and keep passing it on.   When it gets back to the Mom everyone is connected.

Take a moment and share how you are all connected together to share and love the expecting mother!  That she can feel that love at any time.

Then go around and cut the cord between each person and have them tie the cord on their wrist.  Let the guests know they can choose to wear it until the Mom has her baby.  Remind them if they choose to do this, they can think of the expecting Mom and send her prayers and well wishes, each time they think of her.

Moms and Guests love it!

Do these 3 tips, or even 1 and it will add something special to the shower

I have done this at 3 or 4 “normal” baby showers.  Each time the guests and the Mom express how meaningful both of these activities were.

They were easy to add and made the baby shower more of a Mother’s Blessing.

Try it and let us know your experiences.

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Jehovah Creates the Earth by Walter Rane


Not long ago I found myself sitting in the garden room of the Idaho Falls temple pondering what was next for me. I had just had my third miscarriage since my last child. I realized that the repeated miscarriages meant that a chapter of my life was closing. I felt a little lost and confused. I had been in and out of pregnancy, breastfeeding, and birthing babies for the last eighteen years. I just didn’t realize that an end was coming when it did, so while I felt ready to embrace a new chapter I felt a bit melancholy about it too. 


One of the beautiful things about going to the temple is that, given our different circumstances, we will hear the same things but they will mean something new or different to us.  That day for me it was being reminded of the six periods of creation.  When God directs the creation, it is a beautiful harmony of events. Each creative period has its time and place. I had this ‘aha’ moment where I realized that I was not done ‘creating,’ I was just moving on to a different creative period of my life.  I felt like it was the Lord’s way of telling me that my family is complete and that it was okay for me to move on to the next stage of life that would no longer include, pregnancy, breastfeeding, diapers, and so on.


It was Dieter F. Uchtdorf that said, “Creation means bringing into existence something that did not exist before—colorful gardens, harmonious homes, family memories, flowing laughter” (source). As women we do not move from one period of creation to the next in the same way or order. We each have different experiences, talents, gifts, and challenges that pull us toward a particular form of creation. For a long time it was childbearing for me. That period of time may be shorter for other women or longer.  It may not even happen in this life, but that period of creation will come, “If you are a mother, you participate with God in His work of creation—not only by providing physical bodies for your children but also by teaching and nurturing them. If you are not a mother now, the creative talents you develop will prepare you for that day, in this life or the next.”


Participating in creating is an ongoing process. The focus of creation for me will just become a little different. I like Elder Uchtdorf’s suggestion, “The more you trust and rely upon the Spirit, the greater your capacity to create. That is your opportunity in this life and your destiny in the life to come. Sisters, trust and rely on the Spirit. As you take the normal opportunities of your daily life and create something of beauty and helpfulness, you improve not only the world around you but also the world within you.” In the end I feel like I am still in the process of being created.  And, like the painting above, the Lord is directing it.  I can’t see everything from my perspective but He can, and I trust His wisdom and guidance. How grateful I am for the six babies who came to our family and the powerful experience that it was to carry them, birth them and nurture them. 


And so, I’m moving on to a new period of creation, relying on the Spirit to guide the way.  May that Spirit guide you in whatever period of creation you may find yourself. 


You may enjoy reading Lani’s poems that she wrote for the empty womb and this woman’s experience coming to know that her family was complete. 

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